I made the choice to emerge from my cocoon as a butterfly. Here are a few ideas among many, I implemented when reinventing myself after a harsh and bitter divorce some years earlier.
In your journey forward, know that there will be times when you'll stumble and fall, but you pick yourself up and remind yourself that you're a gritter, not a quitter."
Who isn't willing to waste their time on you!
- Be brave enough to admit to yourself, before you can admit to others that you played a roll in the conflict. Regardless of how much, is irrelevant, the mere acknowledgment
and acceptance of a contribution is enough and a step towards self-preservation.
- Set personal boundaries and begin to say no, if it doesn't feel right or smell right, chances are, it isn't right.
- Lower your expectations, if you fill your plate with too much food, inevitably some will begin to fall off. Accept that you can't achieve perfection.
- Stop sweating the small stuff and begin to prioritize.
- Remind yourself everyday, that happiness is a way of life, not a destination, that means optimism rules and pessimism dies. Get rid of the victim mentality and begin to
see yourself as a leader.
- Share responsibilities with your family and close friends. Accept help from people when they offer, and don't be afraid to ask for help yourself.
- Never allow anyone to be condescending, rude or hostile towards you or anyone else, for that matter. They do not have the right, but you have the moral obligation
to make sure no harm comes to you or your loved ones.
- Approach life with optimism not pessimism. Pessimism breeds cynicism....Which do you want to be? A butterfly or a Moth?
To the world you may be one person,
But to one person you may be the world